How To Catch a Cheater


Last updated on December 2nd, 2023 at 08:02 pm

Dealing with a partner you suspect is cheating or engaging in other adulterous behaviors often leads to extremely stressful situations. If you want to know for sure whether or not your partner is cheating, you may wonder if there are ways to catch them in the act. Our article provides you with some advice about catching a cheater red-handed so you can gain the necessary information to make an informed decision about your relationship.

Do You Suspect Your Partner Is Cheating on You?

Relationships aren’t always easy, and it’s natural to wonder from time to time if your partner is cheating. Most of the time, this is just a fleeting thought, and you don’t really have any evidence to back up your concerns. Sometimes, however, signs accompany your partner’s strange behavior, which may indicate they are cheating or at least hiding something from you.

Signs that your partner might be cheating include:

  • Acting secretive with their devices
  • Refusing to engage with you when confronted about their strange actions
  • Disappearing at odds times or not communicating their whereabouts
  • Putting in extra time at the gym, changing their clothing after being out, or wearing items you’ve never seen before
  • Constantly picking fights or arguments with you

Of course, it’s important to note that this list isn’t exhaustive, and many other signs may indicate your partner is cheating. In general, any sudden deviation from their standard behavior can indicate that your partner may be experiencing health issues, keeping secrets, or going through an unexpected life change; you’ll want to evaluate all these options.

Ways To Catch a Cheater in Action

There are several ways to catch a cheater in action and to get the evidence you need to move forward in your relationship. You should note that installing tracking software on your partner’s devices or car, utilizing illegal keylogging software, or stalking your partner are all illegal actions and may result in serious consequences. Only use legal search methods and prioritize your safety when determining if your partner is cheating.

Below are five legal ways to catch a cheating partner.

1)   Observe Their Behavior

Observing your partner’s behavior is an essential first step in determining if they are cheating. Sudden behavior changes such as working out more, introducing new behavior and techniques in the bedroom, starting arguments often, or acting cold towards you are all indicators that something is amiss. Your partner may also be secretive, unwilling to communicate with you and take extra care to hide their devices from you.

2)   Keep Track of Their Statements

Partners that cheat in relationships will often slip up and make conflicting statements at one point or another. So it’s crucial to pay attention to what your partner tells you about their whereabouts, such as if they are working late or supposedly going out with friends.

That way, if you find evidence to the contrary, you won’t be confused or convinced by your partner that they communicated properly to you when they were lying. If you experience this often, coupled with confusion, you may be a victim of gaslighting by your partner.

3)   Access Their Devices

Accessing your partner’s devices can be risky, so make sure you are in a safe environment to do this. It may also cause arguments, so don’t access your partner’s device if your safety is at risk during fights with your partner.

If you do gain access to your partner’s devices, check their browsing history, uber or rideshare history, social media apps, and text history for evidence of cheating. You may also want to look for apps that hide information or hidden photos and videos.

4)   Ask Them To Share Their Location

Putting hidden location trackers on your partner’s car or their devices is not recommended due to the legal issues it might cause, but you can always ask your partner to share their location with you. If they are unwilling and secretive about their whereabouts, this may indicate a problem. If you do have your partner’s location and see them visiting areas you don’t know, consider running an address search on Information to gain answers about their whereabouts.

5)   Check Bank Statements

Partners who cheat will likely need to spend money to do it, and if you share a bank account with your partner, you can look through the statements for evidence. Don’t try to gain access to your partner’s private bank account if you are not authorized to do so, as this may cause serious legal problems.

Should I Confront My Partner About Cheating?

Whether or not you confront your partner about their potential cheating behaviors is a personal choice. You should gather all of the evidence you are able to about their adulterous behaviors and take time to gather your thoughts before acting on emotion and impulse alone; speak with a therapist or trusted friend or family member to gain support about the situation and plan your next moves.

If it is safe for you to do so, you may want to speak with your partner and tell them that you have discovered their cheating. Present your evidence, tell them your next plans (such as breaking up or divorce), and then exit the situation. If you believe there might be a safety issue when confronting your partner, don’t hesitate to alert a friend or family member or request assistance from the police as needed.

Catch a Cheater Today

Living with thoughts that your partner may be cheating can be consuming, and often, it feels harder to live with the lies around you than simply knowing the truth. But you don’t have to live this way; using our above methods, you can get all the proof you need to know conclusively if your partner is being unfaithful. Always put your own safety and needs first when it comes to presenting evidence of cheating to a partner and planning your next steps forward.

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